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What Does it Mean to be a Gentleman?

A gentleman comes from no conclusion, and because he has no judgment,

he opens the door to possibilities for each and every person he touches.

gents-02What does it mean to be a gentleman? What if being a gentleman meant something completely different than you might have considered?

If you’re a gentleman, you realize the value of each and every person you’re with. Gentlemen have no judgment of anyone. They only have the awareness of what might be possible for each and every person they’re around. What if you were willing to have the awareness of everything that’s possible instead of the judgment of what you should or shouldn’t do?

A gentleman has no judgment of what he does or what anybody else does. A gentleman doesn’t come to conclusion or judgment. If you were going to look for the opposite of gentleman you might look for a sexist. That’s close to being the opposite of gentleman.

A sexist is one who has determined what is right. He has decided that it’s the way it’s supposed to be and that’s what you have to do. Being a gentleman means you’re looking for the possibilities. You’re not looking for the conclusions, and you’re not looking for the judgment.

With regard to women, a gentleman is one who is willing to recognize what a woman needs and to deliver that. If you’re willing to be a gentleman, you’re willing to see what a woman requires of you. A gentleman doesn’t just take in a man’s point of view. He is willing to see the woman’s point of view, as well. He is willing to see what he can do that will create a different possibility. If you are not willing to see what you’re capable of creating as a different possibility, are you truly able to create what you’d like to create?

As an example, I can be a gentleman and open the door for a woman when she’s getting into a car. When I do this, she says, “You’re such a gentleman.” What does that mean from her point of view? In order to create a relationship or sex with anybody, you have to be what they’re willing to have you be. If you’re willing to be a gentleman, women look at you from a different point of view. Is that point of view judgment or no judgment? It’s a point of view of no judgment.

As a gentleman, you’re always open to the possibility of what might occur rather than concluding and judging what can or cannot occur.

Let’s say you’re a gentleman and you’re out with a gay man and he’s your friend. Do you flirt with him or not? What if you would flirt with him? That’s what he requires and desires of you. Does it mean you’re going to do anything? No. It means you have the choice to give him what he desires of you. You have to be willing to see what people desire of you. If you’re not willing to be a gentleman, you’re not willing to see what people desire of you. A gentleman always knows what is required and desired of him and he delivers whatever he chooses.

Being a gentleman is the willingness to be something other people aren’t willing to be. People always choose judgment over possibility. As a true gentleman, you will always choose possibility over judgment, which invites people to greater possibilities. A gentleman comes from no conclusion, and because he has no judgment, he opens the door to possibilities for each and every person he touches.

If you are a gentleman, you will always ask for everyone to become more of what they can be, not less. If you would choose to be more of you, what possibilities could you invite for you and every person you touch?

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